The Intimacy Project

Individual: One-to-one CounsellingCouples CounsellingSex Therapy services will be offered soon as I work towards my AASECT certification and supervision hours.

Absolutely not.Couples often wait until their relationship is in significant distress before reaching out, but you don't need to wait until things are falling apart.You might come because you're having the same argument over and over, feeling disconnected, struggling with sex or intimacy, navigating a major transition, rebuilding trust, or simply wanting to understand each other better.Couples therapy can be about repairing something that hurts. It can also be about strengthening something you deeply value.

My job isn't to decide who's right.In couples therapy, I'm paying attention to the relationship and the pattern happening between you.Often both partners are hurting, protecting themselves, and responding to each other in ways that unintentionally keep the cycle going.We'll work toward understanding what happens between you rather than deciding which one of you is the problem.That doesn't mean I'll pretend every behaviour is okay. Safety, consent, accountability and respect matter, and there may be times when I gently challenge one—or both—of you.

Sex therapy is talk therapy that focuses on sexuality, sexual well-being, intimacy and relationships.People come to sex therapy for all kinds of reasons. You might want to explore desire, pleasure, sexual communication, differences in libido, sexual functioning, shame, body image, sexual identity, changing sexuality across the lifespan, kink, non-monogamy, or simply why sex doesn't feel the way you'd like it to.Sometimes people come because something isn't working.Sometimes they come because they want something more.Both are good reasons.

Only if and when it's relevant to what you want from therapy.You are always in control of what you disclose. I may ask questions or invite you to explore something, but you don't have to discuss anything before you're ready.Part of creating safety around sexuality is respecting boundaries—including yours.

Bring the awkward.Seriously.Sexuality can involve incredibly vulnerable parts of ourselves: our bodies, fantasies, desires, insecurities, identities, experiences, curiosities and fears.Many of us were taught much more about what we shouldn't say about sex than how to actually talk about it.You don't need perfect terminology. You don't need to know whether something is "normal." And you don't need to protect me from an awkward conversation.We can be curious about it together.

Probably not.More importantly, I'm not interested in judging your sexuality against my personal ideas about how people "should" have sex or relationships.My role is to help you explore what is meaningful, consensual, safe and fulfilling for you.

Yes.My practice welcomes people across sexual orientations, gender identities and expressions.You shouldn't have to spend your therapy session educating your therapist about why your identity or relationship deserves respect.

Yes.I welcome clients in a wide variety of consensual relationship structures, including monogamy, polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy.I'm not here to steer you toward monogamy or non-monogamy. We'll look at the relationship structure you want and what communication, consent, boundaries, attachment and connection look like within it.

Yes.Kink and BDSM can be discussed openly and without automatic pathologizing or judgment.As with any sexual or relationship experience, we can explore consent, communication, boundaries, pleasure, meaning, safety and whatever concerns or questions are important to you.

Yes.Different nervous systems can mean different experiences of communication, attention, sensory needs, emotional regulation, sexuality, desire and connection.Rather than assuming one partner's way of communicating or connecting is the "correct" one, I'm interested in helping you understand each other's experiences and find approaches that work for your relationship.

My work is relationship-centred, attachment-informed and evidence-based.My training and ongoing study draw from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB), trauma-informed practice, and contemporary sex therapy.I have completed Levels 1 and 2 of Gottman Method Couples Therapy and am pursuing further specialized education and training in sex therapy, including working toward AASECT certification.I don't believe therapy should be about squeezing you into a particular model. These approaches give us different ways of understanding what's happening and different tools we can draw from depending on what you need.

Therapy with me is conversational.I'm warm, curious and engaged. I'll listen and validate what you're experiencing, but I may also gently challenge you or ask you to look at something from another perspective.And yes, we might laugh.I believe laughter can be medicine. Therapy can hold grief, betrayal, vulnerability, fear and very serious conversations while still leaving room for warmth, humour and humanity.You won't spend the whole session talking to someone who silently nods while you wonder what she's thinking.I'll be there in the conversation with you.

Yes.Although my practice focuses on relationships, intimacy and sexuality, you don't need to be in a relationship—or bring a partner—to benefit from this work.Individual therapy might explore attachment patterns, sexuality, desire, sexual shame, dating and relationships, identity, boundaries, intimacy, relationship transitions or your relationship with yourself.

Yes, individual sessions can sometimes be useful when you're exploring your own relationship patterns or deciding what you want.However, if we're doing couples therapy, the relationship is the client and I generally want both partners actively involved in that process.We can talk about what format makes the most sense for your situation.

That's common.You can still come on your own.Individual therapy can help you understand the relationship dynamic, clarify your needs and boundaries, and explore what is within your control—even when your partner isn't ready to participate.

Yes.Discovering an affair or another significant breach of trust can profoundly destabilize a relationship.Therapy can provide somewhere to slow things down, understand what has happened, work with the intense emotions that follow, and determine what each person needs moving forward.Coming to therapy after betrayal doesn't automatically mean you've decided to stay together—or separate. Sometimes the first task is simply figuring out what comes next.

You don't need to know whether you want to stay together before coming to therapy.Sometimes couples arrive deeply committed to repairing their relationship. Others aren't sure.Therapy can create space to understand what has happened, what each person wants, whether repair feels possible, and what moving forward might look like.The goal isn't to keep every relationship together at all costs. The goal is greater clarity, honesty and intentionality about what happens next.

Not always.When there is coercive control, fear, ongoing violence or significant concerns about safety, traditional couples therapy may be inappropriate and can sometimes increase risk.Safety comes first.I have professional experience working in the domestic violence sector and take these concerns seriously. If couples therapy isn't appropriate, we can discuss safer individual or specialized supports.

The Intimacy Project is a virtual practice.Sessions take place through a secure video platform, allowing me to work with clients throughout British Columbia.You can attend from somewhere private and comfortable where you can speak freely.

Individual therapy: [50/60 minutes — fee TBD]Couples therapy: [60/75/90 minutes — fee TBD]Initial couples session: [length — fee TBD]

Yes — I offer a 20-minute free consultation.A consultation gives us a chance to briefly discuss what you're looking for, answer questions, and determine whether working together feels like a good fit.

I am a Registered Social Worker (RSW) with the British Columbia College of Social Workers.Many extended health plans provide coverage for counselling or psychotherapy services delivered by a Registered Social Worker, but plans vary significantly.I recommend checking your benefits to confirm whether services provided by an MSW/RSW are covered and what your annual limit is.

I am a Registered Social Worker with specialized education and ongoing training in couples, relationships and sexuality. I am currently working toward certification through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).I believe it's important to be transparent about both the training I have completed and the credentials I am still working toward.

You don't have to figure that out from a website.Therapy is relational, and fit matters.You may be looking for someone who can comfortably talk about sex, who understands attachment and relationship dynamics, who won't judge your identity or relationship structure, and who can offer both empathy and gentle challenge.If that sounds like what you're looking for, we might be a good fit.And if we're not, that's okay too.Finding someone you can actually talk to matters.Connection isn't something we find. It's something we create.